Albert L. Ortega/Getty Images Salma Hayek and François-Henri Pinault
Salma Hayek's simple marriage secret? Kindness!
The actress appeared virtually on Wednesday's episode of Jada Pinkett Smith's Facebook Watch series Red Table Talk and discussed her 12-year marriage to husband François-Henri Pinault, revealing that their strategy is always to focus on problems as opposed to pointing fingers.
"When there is conflict, we put all the energy in solving the problem - never finding who to blame or, 'You should have done this or that.' No," said Hayek, 54. "All our energy goes into, 'How do we solve this?' "
Because of their approach, "We've never said anything nasty to each other," she added. "No resentment."
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Hayek married Pinault on Valentine's Day in 2009 inside the City Hall of the Sixth Arrondissement in central Paris. The couple share 13-year-old daughter Valentina, while Pinault is also a father to three children from previous relationships.
The photo depicted Hayek giving her husband - who is the CEO of luxury fashion group Kering and president of the holding company Groupe Artémis - a smooch from behind as he smiled and held her hand.
"Joyeux anniversaire mon Amour - Feliz cumpleaños mi Amor - Happy birthday my love ♥️," wrote Hayek in her Instagram post, expressing the sentiment in French, Spanish and English.
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Hayek talked about parenting on Red Table Talk, too, sharing that Valentina speaks Spanish, English and French - and "understands a lot of Italian [and] Portuguese." Hayek is also trying to get her to pick up on Chinese.
As for what it's like to parent a teenager, "I've been learning to get out of the way … to let them be who they are," Hayek said. "To give them the chance to take the chance to be unique. And that is not easy. And when you give them a voice, the first person they use it [on] is you."
"Empowerment," the Hitman's Wife's Bodyguard actress added, "also comes with understanding boundaries. Good mothers are always gonna wonder, 'Am I doing the right thing? Did I do the right thing?' Always, because we care. And because we want to be our very best for you."
"Sometimes when your children go away - 'cause I have stepchildren that are older - there's such a void that you really don't know who you are anymore," Hayek continued. "There is a sense not only of loss - it's like, 'Who am I without them? What is my family now?' "
Catch Hayek's full episode of Red Table Talk on Facebook Watch.