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Dating can be a lonely business — but it doesn’t have to be. I’ve known this since the 7th grade, when I fell in puppy love with my first real boyfriend. He wore Hurley shirts and had a Justin Bieber-style bowl haircut. I still vividly remember the way he’d jerk his neck to the side to flip his hair back into place, just like Zac Efron in High School Musical. Even once we became an official “item,” I was so nervous to be alone with him. But I had a buffer — my junior high bestie was dating his friend, and we all did everything together. That mostly meant watching movies in a basement and “walking around,” the activity du jour in my small Iowa town. But my friend and I were personally invested in each other’s budding romances, probably to an unhealthy degree. I’d sometimes ask her what to say in my messages to the Bieber Wannabe when I wanted to flirt. Or to start a fight. (Bickering was honey in the tea of our young love — it made it sweeter… and oodles more exciting!) I’d type up a message and my trusted bestie would take my Motorola Razor phone, making edits and clacking out wittier comments than I could come up over predictive text. Eventually, my friend and I both got dumped — on the same summer weekend. I’ll admit, it was less of a blow since I wasn’t alone in the breakup. As I remember it, I got the text while sitting in a La-Z-Boy recliner watching Snakes On A Plane, with my friend in the chair over, who’d recently receive a similar message. I guess the boys had been vetting each other’s missives too. More than 10 years later, amid a pandemic, I started to notice that not so much has changed about my dating habits. My roommate and I sometimes sit on the couch and help edit each others’ messages to potential partners on dating apps. I’ll suggest she send shorter texts, and she’ll remind me to ask questions to keep conversations going. When I found myself in a frustrating courtship with a Hinge date earlier this year, I’d burst out of my room to read her the latest egregious message I’d received and she’d help me craft a response — often toning down my impulse to ping back with a sassy retort. If my roommate isn’t home, I can screenshot a dating app message to my group chat, and someone will inevitably come through. And we aren’t alone. Ghostwriting is “modern communication’s big open secret,” The Atlantic recently wrote. Katie Jacobs, 27, who is single and lives in New York City, has also handed her dating life over “to the group”— and she’s done so for years. When she lived in Boston with three roommates, she sometimes projected her phone screen onto the TV using Chromecast, so all her housemates could help her swipe and DM on a dating app. “We’d get wine and it was like a game we’d play,” Jacobs says. “They’d be harsher in some ways than I would normally be. One would say, ‘We’re saying no to this person.’ And I’d say, ‘But what about —’ And he’d say, ‘Nope!’” she recalls. Other times, they’d encourage her to give someone she dismissed over something small — them listing golf as a hobby, for instance — a shot. When Jacobs moved to New York, she and her roommate, a close friend, would sometimes switch phones and swipe and DM partners for each other. “The nice thing is we have pretty similar personalities, though we don’t always have similar taste in partners,” she says. “You really do have to do this with someone you trust.” After matching with someone, though, Jacobs tried to avoid getting too much input from friends. She’d only seek out advice from friends on what to say if she was really into someone — or if she matched with a woman. “I’m bisexual, and I find I want to be more careful with what I say to women than to men. Because I assume that they’re analyzing messages more in the same way I am,” she explains. “We have another friend who’s gay, so I’ll ask her frequently for advice if I’m having a hard time figuring out what to send.” Even then, this strategy has some risks. Jessica, 27, of Nashville, TN (who asked us not to use her full name for professional reasons) was swiping on behalf of a friend and began chatting with a match like she had many times. But then she began to feel a spark. After clearing it with her friend, Jessica came clean that she’d been the person behind the profile. “He didn’t respond for about a day or so,” Jessica remembers. “He actually requested to call my friend and Snap[chat] to verify the entire thing was not a catfishing scheme.” Even then, he was skeptical — but the two kept talking, and they’re still seeing each other (long distance) a year later. “It’s a modern-day romance, that’s for sure,” Jessica laughs. “Generally speaking, people don’t care,” when they find out that they’ve been reading ghostwritten texts, especially if they really like person they’re talking to, says Scott Valdez. He would know: He’s the founder of the dating service Vida Select, which will help you find a match and ghostwrite messages on your behalf to get the ball rolling in a relationship — for a mere $695 (£500) a month. “The only reason someone would find out is if you tell them, and of our clients who’ve chosen to disclose, we’ve found that if someone really likes you, they’re not going to care about much of anything you did before they met you [in person],” he says. The occasional edit or assist is welcome, but there may be some downsides to asking for too much input in your messages, says Damona Hoffman, a dating coach and host of The Dates & Mates Podcast. Some people may want a ghostwriter because they’re insecure about their likeability, or they want a safety net if they get rejected — so it’s not all on them if someone doesn’t reply to a message. But if someone is doing all of your messaging, whether it’s a friend or a professional, your match may not get as authentic of a read on you, Hoffman says. That could lead to a disconnect down the road, when you meet in person. That said, this can happen anytime you message someone for too long before meeting them — which many of us are doing, a consequence of the pandemic. “Sometimes people don’t seem as clever or quippy in person as they did when they had time to write a message, whether someone was helping them or not,” Hoffman says. “Ultimately, messaging is not a real guage of compatibility.” Friends may also be more comfortable suggesting (or typing up) risky messages when they’re dating vicariously through you than when they’re on the apps as themselves. So take their edits with a grain of salt, Hoffman adds, and never send anything you wouldn’t be comfortable reading in front of a courtroom — or having posted to a popular Twitter account. All things considered, it’s no real surprise that many of us are over-thinking our messages right now. During a pandemic, we’ve more time to sit and dwell on… everything. With so many people feeling as though they’ve “lost a year of dating,” they may feel more pressure to get their dating app messages in particular “right.” And while there are some downsides (your match may not be getting to know the real you; your friends encourage you to use emojis more freely than you’re comfortable with; it’s giving you junior high flashbacks) having friends ghostwrite your dating app messages is a largely victimless crime, and so widespread as to be expected. One thing we all have in common, says Valdez, is that “we could all use a little help sometimes.” And isn’t that the truth? Like what you see? How about some more R29 goodness, right here?Dating Apps Dos & Don'ts, According To Gen ZMen On How They Feel About Losing A Year Of DatingHow I Learned To Look For Green Flags In Dating
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On The Late Show With Stephen Colbert Thursday night, Seth Rogen explained why his so-called feud with Senator Ted Cruz is "not a feud." Rogen is known for being openly opinionated on Twitter and, back in January, he and Cruz had a days-long twitter exchange, which all started on Inauguration Day, when Cruz criticized President Joe Biden for reentering the Paris Climate Agreement. On Thursday, host Stephen Colbert asked Rogen to explain why he is calling his social media spar with Cruz "not a feud." "Feud implies equal ground," Rogen explained. "If someone's trying to murder someone with a baseball bat and someone is yelling that person to stop, is that a feud between the baseball bat-wielder and the person yelling at the baseball bat-wielder? I don't know if that's a feud." Rogen added, "I think feud implies two people hitting each other with baseball bats. I'm, like, Ted Cruz is a fascist. He denies the reality of the election. His words cause people to die, and I'm making jokes about it. Is that a feud? I don't know. To me, it doesn't seem like a feud. To me, it seems like I'm pointing out the fact that he is a terrible man whose words have resulted in death." The actor later shared, "If you were playing baseball against a team and, like, you're trying to get a lot of runs and the other team is trying to bludgeon you to death, like, is it like shocking that you're not scoring as many runs as maybe you should be scoring? No, the other team is just trying to beat you to death with baseball bats, you know."
Singapore further tightened its COVID-19 measures as it sought to control an increase in untraceable coronavirus infections in the city-state. “A pattern of local unlinked community cases has emerged and is persisting,” Singapore’s Ministry of Health said in a statement Friday. “This is worrying as it suggests that there may be unknown cases in the community with possible ongoing community transmission and that our earlier and ongoing measures to break the chains of transmissions may be insufficient.”
Cases of the Indian COVID variant have more than doubled in a week, sparking concerns that further measures will be needed to stop its spread, including local lockdowns.
When I was 15, I thought that by the time I turned 25 I’d be a successful, confident, grown adult. I pictured myself traveling the world; I also figured I’d be making a ton of money. Unfortunately, neither of those things are true. In fact, in many ways I feel less like I know what I’m doing at 25 than I did at 15. Some refer to this as a quarter-life crisis: an introspective time filled with existential dread and unanswerable questions about the meaning and purpose of life that usually occurs during our mid-to-late 20s (assuming we’ll live to be 100, I guess). While it’s not as well-known as the mid-life crisis, people have been talking about the quarter-life crisis for decades. But some experts are saying that the historic pandemic we’ve been living through for the past 14-plus months has made this particular stage of life even more stressful. For the past year, we’ve experienced insurmountable loss — including the loss of life, loss of jobs, and loss of security, which Caitlin Arthur, MA, MHC says has created a kind of crisis on its own. “The quarter-life crisis is a period of general uncertainty,” she tells Refinery29, adding that “the pandemic is, by definition, also a period of uncertainty.” During a quarter-life crisis, people tend to question their career direction, experience relational difficulties — whether with a romantic partner or with family or friends — and feel financial stress, she says. COVID-19 has brought all of those areas of life to the forefront as well, and taken away our sense of control over our lives. Which begs the question: Aren’t we all kind of experiencing the symptoms of a quarter-life crisis right now? Angela Mastrogiacomo thinks so. “There’s almost this rush to figure it all out — and very quickly — which is how I remember feeling when I was in my mid-to-late 20s,” the founder of The Blossom Agency and Muddy Paw PR, tells Refinery29. “But now at 32, almost 33, I’m experiencing it all again in a completely different way.” Instead of grappling with the idea of what to do with her undergrad degree or what city to move to, Mastrogiacomo is questioning whether her decade-long career choice is still right for her — and what the future could look like. “For 15 years, I was always like no, I’m never having kids,” she says. But something in the past year had caused her to change her mind. “I was trying to trace back to where that switch happened for me in the pandemic, and I’m not even sure. It’s just one of those things that I think through the fear, the anxiety, the being stuck inside, the sort of reevaluating things as you do when this major world event is going on, I started rethinking that part of it,” she says. “That was very strange and really alarming to me, because my whole identity — really a big part of it — was wrapped up in [not having kids], and then all of a sudden I was like, Wait, who am I? I was freaked out by it.” Arthur says that the feelings being brought up by the pandemic is singularly similar to the quarter-life crisis — which, while similar to the midlife crisis, is in many ways still distinct. While the former tends to be present- and forward-focused (a fear of falling behind or not meeting goals), the latter tends to be past-focused, and is characterised by a period of reflection on past accomplishments and sadness or insecurity around aging. One common thread that many people have expressed this past year is the sensation of losing time, or that time is running out, which is “a really common thought for people to have when they’re in this quarter-life crisis,” Arthur says. “When our lives are put on pause for a year, truly in every sense of the word, people feel like there’s no movement so that really exacerbates the issue.” So, we’re all going through it — but actually being in your mid-20s right now can be uniquely challenging. A significant amount of young adults moved back into their childhood homes due to the pandemic. We’re not able to freely see our friends, or meet new people or work contacts during a time of life that’s usually particularly social. And the lack of travel, even just to and from our offices or our friends houses or really anywhere, has made us feel stuck and immobile, tied to the computer screen as we work, or look for work. And that ties into one of the main culprits of the quarter-life crisis: job security. Any notion we held that hard work equals career security has been smashed. Instead, the pandemic has made us realize that the dream job is dead and we’re better off prioritising our lives over our nine-to-fives. It sounds bleak, and in a way, it is. But the uncertainty we’re all feeling can point us towards something worthwhile: growth. “The beginning of the pandemic was so filled with anxiety that it was almost immobilising in a lot of ways,” Mastrogiacomo says. “But I think it was a catalyst for rethinking all these things.” If you’re experiencing the feelings of a quarter-life crisis at any age, there are ways to get out of it — or at least, get through it. Therapy can be useful, if you have access, Arthur says. “It’s so helpful to talk to somebody just to help with perspective,” she says. But she’s also a huge advocate for spending less time on social media. “Looking at other peoples’ highlight reels really does not help when we’re already feeling behind or like we should be farther along than we are,” Arthur says. Along the same lines, she suggests starting to take inventory of your accomplishments more often, to counteract the internal monologue telling you that you’re off-track. Finally, talk to other people who are going through the same experience as you, and try out new hobbies or volunteering, Arthur says. “For a lot of people, they work for eight hours a day, come home, eat dinner, go to bed, and do it all over again,” Arthur says, “so trying to create a more robust day to day life can be really helpful.” Whether you want to call this period of uncertainty and existentialism a collective quarter-life crisis, an early mid-life crisis, or just a crisis in general, the one thing to remember — and maybe find comfort in — is that we’re not alone in this feeling of being lost. “I think we’re all trying to figure it out and I think, like everybody, I wish [the pandemic] had never happened,” Mastrogiacomo says. “This is horrible. It’s been devastating, it’s been everything awful you could imagine, but if I had to look at the silver lining I’d say that my life is going to look completely different than it would have — and I’m better off for it.” Like what you see? How about some more R29 goodness, right here?If You Have COVID Insomnia These Two Tips May HelpNo, The COVID Vaccine Won't Give You HerpesThe Age At Which Women Reach "Peak Earnings"
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